Tuesday, April 1, 2008

Online Romance

Online Romance

I remember back when I was getting married in 2001 I had met a girl online who lived in New Jersey. She had told me that she had met her husband-to-be online, and that they were now getting married. Back then, online romance was something of a mystery. Many people were scared about the prospect of finding a mate or even a real friend online. Today these relationships are more and more common, and many are finding what they consider to be the love of their life on the Internet.

I am still weary of some of the people at me online. I have been on the Internet long enough now to know that most of the people you talk to are not representing themselves as they really are. I guess everyone does this to a certain degree, but there are some people out there who want an online romance so badly that they completely misrepresent what they look like, who they are, and even where they live. For every good story you hear about online romance, there are five bad ones to go along with it.

One of my closest friends was recently engaged in an online romance. She was not looking for this sort of thing, as she met this person on a divorce support web site. She had absolutely no intentions of dating anyone at that point her life, but the online romance bloomed before she knew what was happening. I met the guy myself a few months ago, and I found him to be a delightful person. I have no idea if they are still dating at this point, as I have not talked to her in a few months.

I do know that she was just as surprised as I was that she found an online romance. We were both pleasantly surprised to find that he was exactly what he claimed to be, and when she met him, they were no bad surprises. Though I am very happy for her, I know that she is an exception. There are many people who are meeting online that developed a great online romance, but there are many more who are left bitter and disappointed. Remember to use common sense when dating and talking to people online. If something sounds too good to be true, you can bet your bottom dollar that it is. Trust your gut feelings.

Attracting women

Attracting women has always been a little bit of a problem for me. I have had a number of successful relationships, but none of them have really been what I was looking for. It seems like I just fall into them. I wish I was better at attracting females. As it is, I don't feel like I have much of a choice in mates. Really, I usually go for whoever is attracted to me first. If I knew how to attract women, I think my dating life would be more successful. I would have increased self-confidence, as well as a choice of potential partners. This, in turn, would make me even more attractive to women.

Recently, I began taking a seminar on attracting women. I have seen so many how to attract women books on the Internet that it piqued my curiosity. At first, I assumed it was nonsense. You always see these kinds of books advertised everywhere. They might promise to teach you how to make more money, how to more effectively reach your personal or professional goals, or how to master attracting women. Whatever the claim, they always appear to promise a high level of success with little or no effort. It is very hard to believe their claims.

Still, after reading the testimonials, I figured that I had nothing to lose by trying. After all, the course only cost a few hundred dollars. In the grand scheme of things, although it was hard for me to throw away a couple hundred bucks on something that might not work, if I mastered the secret of attracting women it would all be worth it.

A lot of the attracting women course seems to be common sense, but it is still helpful. The instructor teaches us to be more self-confident, more forward, and less afraid of taking risks. He argues that if you never try, you never know. I have been trying this approach in every area of my life, and it seems to pay off. People always like self-confidence. It makes them confidence in you as well. Still, my level of success at attracting women has not increased very much since I began my class. If anything, feeling more comfortable approaching women has given me more opportunities to be shot down. Still, I feel like something is happening. At least I am not afraid to try now. After all, attracting women is easier if you feel free to talk to them.